To release shame, the most powerful choice we can make is to forgive ourselves. To release resentment, the most powerful choice we can make is to forgive others for how their choices affected us.
Finding the compassion to forgive yourself can often be more challenging than forgiving another.
Each morning, if you’re feeling stuck or unhappy with where your life is, you have the power to make a new choice. From that choice possibility awaits.
A choice is a conscious commitment to do something that matters to you. Once made, a choice has the ability to expand what’s possible for you while also making a great impact. As you make a choice, you take the first step on a journey that allows the ball of momentum to begin rolling.
Unfolding is one of my favorite words — it’s full of possibility. What may come because you made a choice? Who may you meet? What opportunities will present themselves.
As you make a choice, you begin walking with two feet. Your left foot walks in action, with purpose and at your command. Your right foot walks in openness, attentive and receptive to inklings and happenstance. Your left foot represents masculine, doing energy, and takes the necessary action to bring your choice to fruition. Your right foot, more feminine in nature, represents observing, noticing and allowing. It enjoys the meandering and surrenders control, allowing the present to unfold instead of forcefully shaping it. Just as the power of seeing with both eyes enhances your visual perception, walking consciously with both feet allows you to sense the full spectrum of what’s available to you. You have one foot focused on action, the other on what is magically unfolding, and you walk with balance and awareness.
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Tova Mirvis, the author of A Book of Separation: A Memoir, made the choice to both divorce and to leave her orthodox faith and her community.
Raised in an orthodox Jewish community in Memphis, Tennessee she grew up feeling like there was a set path for her; one that her family was part of and one that was always expected would be her own. She knew from a young age that to stay inside a religious community meant she’d always have this sense of community and identity
of who she was supposed to be in the world. Trying very hard to be that person, she married at a young age, had children, and was part of a very religious community where every choice was mapped out for her.
Yet, she had a quiet whisper of doubt for many years — Is this what you really believe? Is this who you really are?
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